Who You Say I Am
I grew up as an only child until I was a freshmen in high school. Little Violet is the reason why I’m a sister. I loved watching this tiny baby grow up into a beautiful, funny, smart, adventurous, and strong person. But when she started school, I was terrified. At a young age, I remembered being bullied for my race, my height, my weight, my clothes, my personality, and heck even my own name at one point! The thought of anyone hating my sister for the same reasons I love her, brought me to tears. I fear for the day when she experiences the same insecurities I had:
“I’m not pretty enough”
“I’m not smart enough”
“I’m not cool enough”
“I’m not skinny enough”
The list goes on and on and on. When you love someone so stinkin’ much, you just want to show them off to the world. But when the world rejects them, it hurts...a lot. I wonder if that's how God feels when His own children are hated, rejected, neglected, and abused. Does God’s heart break like mine, when the most precious being of His is mistreated?
So what happens to a small child who grows up hearing they’re unloved and unworthy? Unfortunately, they believe it. They’ll develop insecurities, bad habits, and be in unhealthy relationships. The only way to rise up from this is by unlearning every lie, and replace it with God's truth. There’s actually a psychological term called “neuroplasticity” which Britannica defines as the “capacity of neurons and neural networks in the brain to change their connections and behaviour in response to new information, sensory stimulation, development, damage, or dysfunction”
In other words, your brain is capable of rewiring itself to learn new behaviors, and unlearn others. The Bible even teaches us how we can do this:
We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.
(2 Corinthians 10:5)
So keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always.
It's hard to believe you’re loved when you've been abused, or that you’re worthy when you've been ignored, or you’re beautiful when you've been rejected. We have to retrain our brains. What God says of you is the truth about your identity, and anything opposite of that truth is a lie. The only opinion about your worth, your identity, your purpose that matters comes from God. The most reliable opinion of the creation should be the one who created it.
The creator knows the exact imperfections and beauty of its creation like a work of art. Everyone will have an opinion about you; some are positive, negative, or neutral, but God's is always true.
I can’t protect my little sister from the lies she’ll hear. But that’s why I need to be grounded in God’s truth about me, so I can share that same truth to her. It’ll become easier and easier to distinguish what someone says is untrue, when we commit to knowing what is true about us in God’s words.
God says you’re: chosen (Ephesians 1:11), His child (John 1:12), complete in Him (Colossians 2:10), a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), forgiven of ALL sins (Ephesians 1:7), healed by His wounds (1 Peter 2:24), free from condemnation (Romans 8:1), strong in the Lord (Ephesians 6:10), and victorious (Revelations 12:11).
Go out into the world knowing who you are and whose you belong to. Fight and destroy every lie with God’s truth. You have authority to do all of these things because God said so.
Now you understand that I have imparted to you all my authority to trample over [Satan’s] kingdom. You will trample upon every demon before you and overcome every power Satan possesses. Absolutely nothing will be able to harm you as you walk in this authority.
- Jasmine Gutierrez -